We were driving to church yesterday morning and I started to think out loud about things like giving, compassion, involvement and all that sort of thing. From my point of view, I feel like a church should be felt in their community. I want to do grimy church. I want to get my hands dirty. I don’t want to go to a church where everyone is comfortable and we just come together to feel good we’re there and our only focus is on our little community. Can’t stand the thought of doing suburban, modern, sanitized church that nobody outside the doors even knows exists. Can’t do it. Won’t do it.
So I’m driving down the round ranting about getting my hands dirty and Lauri only has two responses… both of which touched my core… neither of which I demonstrated the courage and transparency to admit to her at the time. First, she reminded me that I don’t have to wait to make an impact and if my new church isn’t doing outreach maybe I’m supposed to be the one to bring the solution. In other words, don’t just talk about it – be about it!
Second, with all my talk about how I can get my hands dirty, she gently corrected me: “You mean how can WE make an impact on the community?” And there it was… I was neglecting the greatest gift God has given me in a relationship… a wonderful woman and wife who sees us as a team. I was still thinking “I” and failing to think “we” in so many ways. I was in the wrong and I knew it!
“You’re right. We. How can we serve people? And you’re right that we don’t need to wait. You’re right.”
You do not know how hard that is for me sometimes!!! On the other hand, it’s really easy when truth smacks me in the face. I prayed for years to be part of a we and the Lord has blessed me… has blessed us. I must remember that and grow into it. Praise His name!
Nothing… NOTHING!!! has tested my personal growth and maturity more than choosing to marry again. Nothing has been a greater blessing. NOTHING! I am humbled by how much God has blessed me in just a short time and I only want to do one thing with this blog post: I want to encourage you to take another chance at life and love and marriage if you still feel that longing in your spirit. That’s it. That’s all. Please be encouraged and know that God can do it.
It’s going to take some humility and courage from you, however. I’m not going to lie to you and tell you it’s easy. At my age and after so many years single caring only about what I want and need, changing my habits and inclinations has been one of the hardest things to do I’ve ever done. No question about it. Growing from “I” to “We” is the biggest shift I’ve ever learned how to do. I know it’s the most worthwhile thing I can do… that WE can do for our life and marriage.
One thing I can tell you that Lauri and I both did early on is to decide that we were both all in. No hesitation or reservations. No holding back. We were either going to work together or we weren’t. But if we didn’t work out, it wouldn’t be because either of us approached our relationship fearfully. If you want God to bless you to become part of a “we” again or for the first time, we’re standing in agreement with you that He would bring that companionship into your life. Also that you would walk forward in courage. Amen.
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